“I have so many dates on OK Cupid that I hardly know what to do with myself,” says another friend, tugging on a strand of hair as she scrolls through her inbox.
“I just knew something wasn’t right.” Her OB-GYN recommended a fertility specialist, who eventually recommended surgery for what was determined to be endometriosis.Pasquale Patrizio, director of the Yale Fertility Center.Most healthy young women in their 20s can rightly expect that they will be able to conceive, he said.James Grifo, director of the New York University Fertility Center.But their treatment options are largely the same as those available to women who are no longer in their 20s.Which can make it all the more shocking for women who cannot.
“I never thought our 20s would be so consumed and obsessed with dealing with these treatments," said Mary Roberts, now 27, who has been trying to have a baby for almost four years. I just know that infertility is a symptom." There are many diagnoses offered to women like Roberts to explain their infertility: diminished ovarian reserve; ovulatory dysfunction; pelvic inflammatory disease; endometriosis (when the tissue that normally lines the inside of a woman's uterus grows outside of it and can prevent an egg and sperm from uniting).Like conducting a job search, online dating is an exercise in patience, compatibility, and, sometimes, rejection.It’s not romantic, but to a certain degree, the search for a suitable partner is not unlike the job hunt.You wait a few days, a week, and then the text that you didn’t want but somehow knew was inevitable arrives. He really liked you but he’s not ready for a relationship. If someone doesn’t think they’re ready for a relationship, then I bet you and an Us Weekly subscription that any relationship you would start with that person would be fraught with drama. I think that sometimes we feel weird about rejection because it is lovely to be desired, even if it’s by someone you’re not really interested in the first place. Wallowing in these moments feels good, but it’s counterproductive to the larger thing you’re trying to accomplish here, which is living a full life, regardless of your relationship status. Sometimes the sting of rejection is less about the actual person rejecting you and more abut the sting of no longer being the object of desire. If some dude you were really into pulls the “lets just be friends card,” go ahead and eat the ice cream, drink the Pinot, text your group thread mean things about him until that gnawing feeling in your stomach goes away. "No one says their vows -- ‘through sickness and health’ -- and thinks that right after you say them you’ll test that." Roberts is now in the very early stages of her second round of in vitro fertilization. Polycystic ovarian syndrome is the most common cause of female infertility, resulting from a hormone imbalance that can disrupt normal ovulation.