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Mine the ex-relationship for clues of what you truly want in a wonderful, fulfilling relationship. I have seen her a couple of times in the past several months. She never called back and has moved onto some one else. One morning we got into a terrible fight and I left to go buy him cigarettes and when I got back he was gone.Now you have a good idea of what you are looking for in your next partner or what you should put into your current relationship. Moving on to another relationship after such an experience is difficult. Saw her a couple weeks ago and she just brushed our time aside as it never happened. So, we were together 2 years and lived together for a year. He then began to due drugs again (his real parents were drug addicts and alcoholics). He went over to his friends out that recently got divorced.
The ultimate dilemma is how to let go of the living, breathing former partner who may love you, or whom you may love, and yet who is not good for you and is not available to you; how to let go of the one who seems to have been the one. Understand and accept that your partner would have given you the moon and the stars if he could have.The times he was everything you needed are hard to let go of. You did everything possible to make her be the way you wanted 100 percent of the time. You used all of the tricks in the book you could come up with to evoke the behavior you wanted. You knew you deserved better than just some fraction of what you wanted. Perhaps he left the relationship and left you longing and wanting him back. You feel that somehow not getting the love you wanted was your fault. One of the things that keeps you hooked into that relationship is anger. The rest of the time, she acted hurtful towards you.You have been looking for that kind of love all of your life. If you were only good enough, smart enough, attractive enough, patient enough, your ex would have given you the love you wanted, all of the time. Anger arises when someone has something you want but won’t give it to you, especially when giving it seems the natural or expected thing to do. It is very difficult to throw away this type of connection.Sometimes she was wonderful and sometimes she was horrible. His bad side was hurtful, and in the end the bad outweighed the good. This again is a difficult step, in that when you have fond memories of someone or perhaps a painful breakup that you have a hard time making sense of, it’s very hard to not revisit these memories again and again.Since the bad side was a part of the package and could not be changed, the whole package has to be let go off. You go back to them for comfort or in hopes of understanding what happened. Mine that relationship for what you want in your current or future relationship.But to let go of someone who is well and alive and possibly still loves you is an incredible task.
Yet let go you must if the partner you are clinging to does not meet your needs.That’s the gift from your ex – the clarity of knowing what you want and need from a relationship! Attracting love, or giving your heart to someone is not easy. I asked her to lunch and the relationship took off. She then told me that there was an ex-boyfriend she still had issues with. We continued on and about three weeks later she told me she was returning to him. It’s extremely complicated because I met him a day after my 17th birthday, he had just gotten out of jail. He started to talk to another girl (he was known for being a man whore before meeting me). This friend is a terrible influence on him and I have never liked him.But, if you are to have a healthy, loving, fulfilling relationship, you must find a way to let go completely and cleanly, so that your ex is a part of your history, but is no longer a wound in your heart. (he is not a bad guy, he has had a rough life due to his parents adopting him, kicking him out when he was 16, and never being there for him for any reason.) I ended up getting pregnant with his baby and due to complications I lost it. I ended up packing his things up over the next few days and took them to him.No matter what you did or did not do, your ex was, is and will continue to be a person with certain behaviors, habits, thoughts and ways of doing relationships. Forgive your ex, forgive yourself, and understand that her behavior was not your fault.Understand that all that she did, the good and the bad, comprise the totality of this person. Because you were connected to the whole person, you got to experience the good side and the bad side as well.Most people have had a relationship in their past that is very hard to let go of. This is the one that felt as if it was meant to be.