Dating people in pain
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People often get scared when they don’t have enough information or don’t understand.And my experience is that some people believe those of us who live with chronic illnesses are defined by that.
The topic: Sex in New Romantic Relationships For Those in Chronic Pain.I’ve had experiences where I learnt sometimes it’s better to say it up front in case the person doesn’t want to pursue a relationship with someone who is chronically unwell.On the flipside, I also learnt that being upfront about it may frighten them off before they get a chance to know you better.I've chosen to live positively, to fight back with diet and lifestyle changes and it's made a huge difference for me.The difference between living all my days in bed, and actually LIVING.I know I’ve felt this way in my own relationship at time.
Well, if I can’t do X, and Z then I better really make sure I’m doing Y!
Embarrassment (shame) came up often in these surveys.
One person said that they won’t speak up about what hurts or what they can’t do because they are embarrassed.
The goal of this study was to explore “the role of sex/physical intimacy in persons with [chronic pain]’s decisions regarding whether to seek a romantic partner, and their experiences initiating and developing a sexual relationship.” The researchers surveyed 40 single or newly partnered (less than 6 months and not co-habitating) people with chronic pain.
Transcripts were analyzed and what they found was not pleasant. The below sounds like something that I could have said, or that many of us might say about how chronic pain affects our sexual relationships (new or old).
I still don’t know if it’s best to tell the person in the beginning or later on.